Monday, March 31, 2008

A Christian Wife's Struggle for Identity in the 21st Century: An Unethical Worldview

Biblical marriage is politically incorrect. In fact, to have a man and women function differently from each other is almost scandalous. If a woman strives to fulfill what God has uniquely designed and equipped her for, she will be going expressly against the feminine ethics of her time. I would even go as far as to say that she will be viewed as morally corrupt in some sense.

The influence of feminism in our culture makes it very difficult for a woman to enjoy contentment in marriage. The feminist agenda is so far reaching that its effects are felt even within our churches, and although strictly speaking our own sinful nature is that root of discontentment, feminism stirs it up, and acts as a stumbling block for many women today. One of my favorite authors, Sharon James, writes, "By now, the idea that a woman may find her chief role in life as a wife and a mother has been discredited beyond repair." A woman whose energies are primarily devoted to a domestic sphere is seen in a degrading light. Many women feel that if they are not pursuing a successful career as their primary goal, they are somehow second-class.

The difficulty that arises for many women is an identity question, "Who am I, if not defined by my career?" and "What is my worth?" As women living in the 21st century, we need to have a solid grasp on what it means to be in Christ. If our sense of self-worth comes from what we do, we will constantly be struggling with insecurity and discontentment. But we have a higher calling than what the world would have for us. Our worth can only be realized in light of the greatness and majesty of our God who has counted us worthy, based on the blood of Jesus Christ. We have the privilege of serving the One we love most in the role that he has purposefully and thoughtfully designed us for. We need to fight to keep worldly ideas from stealing our joy.

"Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect." (Rom. 12:2)


Mike Jones said...

Good post.

"Many women feel that if they are not pursuing a successful career as their primary goal, they are somehow second-class."

This sad reality is evident when we hear women who are living as wife and mother answer the question, "So what do you do?" They all-too-often answer, "I'm JUST raising my kids." JUST???? What in the world is that word doing there?

To paraphrase Piper -- women should not buy into the tragic and soul-draining lie that secular career is a more worthy calling then motherhood -- or to put it another way -- that building wealth and prestige and power in this transient and wicked world is a higher calling and more virtuous exercise than the eternally valuable pursuit of raising children in the fear the Lord.

C.W. Graham said...

Hey Chrissy glad your writing again! Good thoughts.